patty says. class five.

booo on you lakers. booo booo booo. [that's not what patty said.]

she talked a lot about the victim tonight. people love love love to be victims. sure, you are a victim of something, but you are not permanently a victim in life. the bigger the victim you choose to be, the more you convince people that you are a victim and the more you have self-righteous anger (ie: columbine, virginia tech, etc.) in the end, there is nothing good that comes out of being the victim- it is not empowering.

this is how anger develops: something happens. this creates a primary emotion. which leads to thoughts. which leads to anger. which brings about a behavior. simple, right? WRONG. people love to forget the primary emotion and the thoughts. and for some reason they think the wrong thoughts. and jump right to anger. cut it out. my job is to help people communicate at the primary emotion level instead of after the anger part. i need some practice. anyone angry today?

bullying. this is how it happens: suzy bullies sally. schools have a zero tolerance program for bullying. suzy gets in trouble over and over which reinforces sally as the victim over and over. which perpetuates sally as the wimp, all the time. why is suzy getting in trouble? if we stop to think about it, there is probably something going on for her at home that needs to be addressed, not so much at school. bottom line: help suzy with the reasons for why she's bullying and teach sally to have thicker skin, empowering her to stand up to suzy. do not let sally continually be a victim or she will be one all her life. and we all know some of those people, don't we.

have you seen, the squid and the whale? we talked about how that is NOT an over exaggeration of what divorce does. those poor boys.