what if we all stopped saying it?

it = "you're so strong; how do you do it?"

and instead we said: "you are so strong. i imagine you need a break though. what can i do for you? or how can i help you?"

i asked my client what would happen if someone said that to her. she stopped and thought for a good ten seconds and said, "no one has ever said that to me. everyone just thinks of me as being able to handle anything and everything."

i wonder. how different our lives would be.